Hawaii; My future home!
This was the view from our hotel room. What?
My niece loves Hawaii too…
Laniakea Beach (Turtle Beach)
The Famed Shrimp Truck
My gorgeous sister and my niece on the USS Arizona.
A few of the beautiful flowers of Hawaii.
The beautiful countryside.
These are just a few pictures of this gorgeous paradise! I’m sure you can easily see why I should be living in Hawaii! 😉
I’ve seen a hundred TV shows, blog posts, news articles, YouTube videos, etc… dedicated to anti-bullying. But, is anything changing? If anything it seems worse. We live in a reactive society and we need to be proactive.
My own brush with bullying involves my daughters. We had just moved to a new house in a new neighborhood and our new neighbor was a single Mom with two kids. I let them come play with my girls all the time. After a time I realized that even though they are close in age to my girls, they were allowed to do things that were far beyond what I was was prepared to allow my girls to do and this cause a lot of friction and I had to put a stop to all of the hanging out. Shortly after that my girls started to be bullied by them and their friends on the school bus. I was very pregnant with twins & working full time. I wanted so badly to be able to drive them everyday but it wasn’t a possibility. As soon as I heard about the bullying I went directly to the bus driver & asked that he keep an eye on it and move my daughters to different seats. This went on for a while. Finally, I went to the school and requested that they step in. What they did infuriated me! They pulled my at the time 7 year old daughter out of class into a meeting with the bullies. There were no parents present or even notified! I wouldn’t have ever even known about it had my daughter not told me. In my opinion is was the wrong way to approach the situation. Regardless, the bullying continued and I continued to bring it to the attention of the school, teachers, and bus driver. It all came to a head when one day I came home from work and my Mom was there helping me, she said that my daughter had been getting strange messages on her phone. I checked it and there were terrible voice mails and texts from this girls number, only it didn’t sound like her…. it sounded like an adult. As soon as I heard and saw this I marched my enormous pregnant self over to her house; no one was there. So, I called and left a message asking them to call back and saying how I really hoped that it wasn’t the Mom leaving the messages. She called back and admitted to leaving those awful messages & the texts. I was so shocked that I just said you realize this is a 7 year old girl right? It was appalling! Needless to say, she called back several times & had her daughter call me to apologize. She also sincerely apologized in person, but I just can’t look at her the same. I can easily forgive the children, they are only acting in the way that they were raised. But, she was an adult terrorizing a child and that really unsettled me. It scared me to think that an adult was capable of that.
Be proactive. Be the change you want to see (not my quote :o)). Be the voice for your children. Be a voice for other children or adults who don’t have one or are to scared to speak up. If you see or hear of bullying report it. I watched a YouTube video where people were walking by a man being bullied in an obvious way and so many just looked away. Don’t be that person.
“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.”
– John Wesley
This is the way that I want to live my life and the way that I want to raise my children!
For dinner, I made this super yummy new recipe! Sooooo good! You can find it here!
Seriously easy. Try it.
For my very first blog post from my new blog (can you tell I’m excited?) I have decided to post my daughter’s basketball pictures. While I love regular sports pictures, I wanted to show something different! I wanted to show my daughter’s passion for the sport! This is her first year playing and she just loves it! So far her team is undefeated (knock on wood!) and she is hardcore!
If you start them young and instill a love of competitive sports it will be for a lifetime!